This is for older ladies late forties early fifties , what do you know about menopause ?

Ive been married over twenty years , about late last year. I felt my wife being distant no intimacy ,kissing ,touching,well you know no sex . At first I thought it was a fase she was going threw but then 1 month became 2 and 2 became 3 . Before you know it 6 months went by every time I insinuate she says she really doesn't feel like it. She also says she loves me very much and to please understand.Im in my fifties so what do you do , I decided to read on women's health. Her symptoms are saying to me premenopause , I thought great maybe a pill .Like hormone replacement therapy , but if I love my wife the risks outweigh the benefits. To risky my beautiful wife could get some kind of cancer , so no that is out the door.I want to be Intimate but I want her alive. So basically what Im saying if you ladies are going threw something like this? Is there something else that we don't know that is out there? Don't say doctors because they only push HRT is what drug companies want and is a repeat Business later for them when you get cancer.P.S. Im not thinking with my pecker sometimes a good deep kiss and a little a$$ grabbing goes a long way.